I was sitting down with some friends today and one of them mentioned she hated the term “Polarizing”. I’ve heard this word a lot over the past year. I swear to you I listened as she explained why she hates this particular term, but for the life of me now I can’t remember, other than the fact that it is often misused. Personally, I love the term. It has been very freeing for me. It reminds me that I don’t have to be everything to every person. I have the freedom to think and believe what I want and I don’t need to have everyone agree with me. I can say no! In fact, really grasping the concept of polarization, has allowed me to grow tremendously over the past year.
But, of course, I rabbit trailed. All I could think about was this one term that I can not stand people using, and I know this is going to upset a few of you….FML. (F*&% My Life!)
FML? Really? The sad thing is, the people I see use this the most are the ones who really have nothing to complain about. So maybe one day you wake up and it’s raining….FML. Or you wrecked your car…FML. Or you don’t have the right shoes to wear with an outfit….FML. Really? I want to raise my bullshit flag on this. I want to ask if your life is really F&*$ed because you woke up with a pimple? Or if it is f*&%ed because your sick child made you have to stay at home instead of meet up with friends? The sad thing is, I’ve seen and heard this come out of people’s mouths….or on Facebook. Seriously, you have some issues if you think that is what constitutes a F*&%ed up life! There are a lot worse things in life that could happen to you, and sadly, the people who actually have a legitimate reason to say FML, never do. They don’t feel that sense of entitlement that life should always go their way. They understand that sometimes bad things happen to good people. And they truly appreciate the small things in life and take nothing for granted.
So next time you want to use the term FML, stop and ask yourself, did my child die today? Am I being persecuted for my beliefs? Have I been sold into human trafficking? Is one of my loved ones fighting to stay alive while battling cancer? Am I living on the streets after losing my only worldly possessions? Even though these are extreme examples, chances are, no.
Do I have food on my table, even if it is Ramen Noodles? A roof over my head, no matter how small the shelter is? Do I have clothes to wear, even if they aren’t the latest fashion? Then for once, stop being so selfish and be thankful for the things you do have. Stop being so self centered, thinking the universe owes you something. Deal with it. Life goes on. Get some perspective. You will be a lot happier when you stop your pity party of entitlement. Grow up. Life sucks some times. But I promise you this…your life is never as bad as you think it is.
